LETTER FROM A DYING MAN

This week I would like to share a portion of our new book “SANDUSKY BAY”

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Bob,
You know I am not much at talking and not very good at writing. But the last few months have had me doing an evaluation of my life. I have come to realize that I had not taken the time to teach you how to grow up. The truth is, I just did not feel I had what it took.

I think I may have taught you how to work hard, and the importance of providing for your family. I have watched from a distance as you have gone to the mill day after day. I can only imagine how tough it was for you to get hurt and now have to stay home.

I thought I would write out what I have been thinking and what I should have told you early on, hoping you will pass some of this on to Joey.

1. Always accept responsibility for what you do. No lies or complaining. Get and take what you deserve.
2. You cannot control most of life, as hard as you will want to. If you try too hard it will make you an angry man… like I was for most of my life. Roll with the punches. You only have one life.
3. Care about others, especially your wife and family. I was too worried about money and what others thought. I drank too much and took my anger out on your mother. Although it has been tough for us Chadwick’s to be kind to one another, be especially kind to your family. Care about them more than yourself.
4. Appreciate the small things in life. Don’t always look for the spectacular. See the good in all events.
5. Money is needed, but not more important than people.
6. Always treat woman with respect and care.
7. Every day of life is a gift no matter how bad it sucks.
8. Try to find someone older than you to let you know what is down the path of aging. I failed you in this area and I ask your forgiveness.
9. There is something to religion. I met a guy, Ted Barrett, who would live it and tell me about God. I should have investigated it more deeply. I was too proud to do so.
10. Show how proud you are of your family. I never told you this, but I was proud to be your dad and do love you. I am so sorry I never said that to you. That’s the old Chadwick pride showing up again. Wait, no—that is my pride showing up again.

Love you,
Dad

A few things to consider!

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WHAT THE HECK, TAKE A CHANCE!!

When I look on history, I see that God placed Moses into an Egyptian world and Daniel into the Babylonian culture. He used Esther to influence a Persian king…all for a bigger purpose than what they could fathom or foresee.

What culture might God be placing us in present day that is outside of our realm of understanding or comfort?

Gangsta faithy
Let’s take notes from history and

*Learn the “language”. *Study the “traditions”. *Embrace the “assignment”.
*Be strengthened in the trials and
*Enjoy the blessings. *Turn fear into faith.
*grumbling into Thanks
*replace lies with truth and turn
*control into surrender.
*Let God’s love and purpose Override feelings of being overwhelmed!
*receive Grace and *breathe Hope
*Trust Him wholly and *Love people well in the process!!!!!!!!!!

Written by our daughter Amy Delp

Do your job pastor!!

Some people have the mistaken idea that only those in full time ministry (pastors, missionaries etc.) are supposed to do all the sharing and caring. The reality is that every one of us who are called followers of Christ are called to ministry. We are all called to share our faith and care for others, to be the ‘aroma of Christ” to all around us. In fact, many times people in full time non-ministry positions have better opportunities to reach out to others than full time ministers. And sometimes they do a better job! They may have more contact with people in need than those in full time ministry.

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Many in the business community take the approach that everything is measurable, by numbers, dollars, etc. As followers of Christ, I don’t believe we can take that approach. Even Mr. Einstein understood that:

“Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.” – Albert Einstein

Anyone who is concerned for souls will find that the call to ministry is about loving People, embracing Pain and keeping a Godly Perspective in the midst of life. Some of the most valuable things in life cannot be measured.

Have you ever thought that God has called you to be a minister in a non-ministry job? According to Webster’s Dictionary, ministry can apply to clergy, to government officials or to ordinary people who help or attend to the needs of others. How about you? Do you see your job as a responsibility or an opportunity? Do you see ministry as a task or as a privilege? These are questions we all need to ask ourselves, whatever our job, position or calling in Christ. Maybe today God is showing you part of your mission in life! Your position may be a perfect opportunity for ministry! Pastors are there to equip us to do the ministry! Eph 4

And he said to them, “The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few. Therefore pray earnestly to the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest. Luke 10:2

To some I seem Amish

To some I seem Amish

Living in northern Indiana means we are close to many Amish communities. These people live plain and simple lives. They work hard and avoid the complications of our high tech world. Their clothing is conservative, their transportation is horse and buggy and their cooking is down home. To the outsider it seems they are from another century and their lives are stress free. But they have their own unique issues to deal with, just different from you and me.

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Typically, those reading this blog are not a part of the Amish community. We live complex, hectic and driven lives, including work, travel, entertainment and recreation. Although we do not ride in buggies and wear bonnets, we do have varied and unique lifestyles.

To some, my life seems Amish. There are many with more money, more travel, more entertainment, more toys and more time to chill. Isn’t it interesting how we can categorize and rank ourselves in comparison to others.

Life experiences vary but life’s basic necessities are pretty much the same for all of us. We need water, food and shelter. We need relationships to have a fulfilled life. And, according to Scripture, we all need Jesus. After that, it is not about how much we pack into our lives, but how much we give and share God’s love.
As we have time to reflect this week, how do we define success in our lives?
Wealth
.Toys
.Noise
• Position
• Relationships
• Travel
Jesus wants us to live a life of contentment, not comparison. To compare is an error.

2 Corinthians 10:12
Not that we dare to classify or compare ourselves with some of those who are commending themselves. But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding.

Acts 20:35
In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”

Galatians 6:4
But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor
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That’s not in the Bible….

I am just back from vacation and with my mom’s hip surgery this week I was not able to pound out another blog…so I am sending one that was sent to me some time ago…enjoy!!

Someone recently said to me, “I know the Bible says that God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.” Well, the Bible doesn’t say that, at least I can’t find where it says that. What the Bible says is this, “ No testing has overtaken you that is not common to everyone. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tested beyond your strength, but with the testing he will also provide the way out so that you may be able to endure it.” (1 Cor. 10:13)

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I know that many people find comfort in this verse, but although I trust that it is true, it isn’t the most comforting word to me when I am feeling like I have been powerfully pummeled and I see another right jab coming my way. It lacks a ring of comfort to me because I am not too sure that I enjoy the thought of being God’s sparring partner who God beats down to the point of breaking, but not beyond so that we can go at it again tomorrow.

Truthfully, I am not certain what the Biblical writer was intending with this verse, but a God who sends his Son to die for me does not seem to be the kind of God who “tests” me by inflicting tragedies upon me, punching me to the point of me saying, “Uncle!”

I don’t believe that God spends his time seeing how many “punches” it takes to bring me to my knees. It is clear to me, however, that that is exactly what the world delights to do. Day in and day out I hear the world awake me with the words, “Okay. Put up your dukes!” Pressures at work and school that hit you square in the jaw. Uppercuts that attack your relationships. Lies that hit you in the gut and take the breath right out of you. From the corner there are those advising you to keep your hands up! Take it like a man! Get up and fight! Don’t be a sissy!
And when you’ve been thrashed enough, to the point that you can’t get up, that is when the crowd all around you starts yelling, “Loser!”

So, to me, when I find myself beaten and bruised, gasping for breath on the ground, I am glad to hear this verse from the Bible, “11 May you be made strong with all the strength that comes from his glorious power, and may you be prepared to endure everything with patience, while joyfully12 giving thanks to the Father, who has enabled you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the light.13 He has rescued us from the power of darkness and transferred us into the kingdom of his beloved Son,14in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.” (Col. 1)
When the strength to stand has been beaten out of me, when my eyes have become so swollen that I can’t even see where to swing, when I am so pummeled that I can’t even lift my hands…and there are days when I find myself that way…I am glad….no not glad….elated….that God will fill me with his strength…that God has rescued me from the clutches of the evil one….and that through the power of his forgiveness God will send the puncher running with his tale between his legs.

It is not my strength that I need to count on to stand and face another day. The Bible tells me that I can face every day with courage, with hope, and with determination because when I stand toe to toe with the puncher, I do so with the power of God in my being. Sure, some of the days will be heavy weight fights, the world does not give up easily, if not at all. But, when I face those days, rather than quivering in paralyzing fear, I can find myself looking at the puncher square into his eyes and say, “Go ahead. Hit me with your best shot.”, and then a smile comes to my face knowing the power of the divine punch to which the puncher will be on the receiving end.

Someday, the puncher might just learn not to throw the first punch.

Pastor Jerry Nuernberger

Rules are made to be broken…

May I go out and play?

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As youngsters our parents often told us to ask for permission before eating certain foods, starting a project or leaving the house. If we felt we could get away with it, we would weigh the decision and the consequences and do what we wanted. But asking permission was the right thing to do and we knew it.

Somehow over the years we have lost the custom of asking permission. People say and do whatever they want under the banner of personal freedom. There is a culture of privilege that seems to assume it is our right to do whatever we please. We say whatever we want and call it free speech. Have you ever been hurt by someone’s words and then hear them use the excuse that they were just telling the truth, or saying what they were thinking? Words can be weapons.

My good friend Jerry Price has shared with me that it is polite to ask for permission to make a comment or express an opinion. Think about it. A comment or opinion offered without being asked can cause the other person to shut down from hurt or anger. Neither of these responses are good in a relationship.

There can be exceptions. If you are in a leadership position, it is your responsibility to share your thoughts and give direction. If you are in a conversation with a bunch of buddies about football, it’s understood there will be a variety of opinions. I’m guessing it’s the same for women in certain conversations.

However, always speaking what is on our minds may not be what God intends for us. We need to consider the impact our comments may have before expressing them. Often asking permission before speaking is the right thing to do.

Proverbs 17:28 Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Matthew 15:11 It is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.”

Colossians 4:6 Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.