A few weeks ago I wrote about Joy vs Happiness. Let’s go deeper as a mom shares about life….
Remember when you were a kid and you never wanted to be left out? Isn’t it funny how the struggles of our childhood are easily found again as adults? The struggles don’t really disappear as adults, they just take on different forms.
As adults, these struggles take on more complex faces that mask themselves under the same basic principles. One that I struggle with is joy. The lack of joy or the ability to recognize it can be destructive and lead us to the never winning game of comparison.
Comparison is often deemed “the joy stealer.” Nothing robs true joy like focusing on the lies that the next thing, upgrade,
promotion, milestone, method, or whatever your comparison go to is will unlock joy. All comparison does is highlight the negative and place you in an unattainable pseudo-reality of existence rather than living.
Joy is ordinary. It’s easily found by those willing to see the value in the simple and consistent in life. It is not contingent upon the value others see in you but rather knowing yourself, seeing your own worth and deciding to find the joy in the tangible moments you’ve been given.
The struggle is real and one that can be easily overlooked in the false reality we put on display. It can be mistaken for the facade we create from the “everything is great smile” to the highlight reel that is social media. But, joy requires our authentic selves and truly engaging with those around us.
Think of a joy moment… Did it happen online? Did it happen while you were isolated? Likely the answer to these is no. Joy is in the middle of the mess of real life with real people. As hard as we try to manufacture those moments, we can’t because joy can’t be manipulated.
As I struggle through the comparison, the why is this my journey, why can’t it just be easy, it’s easy to think of joy as finite. To think that this is needed before joy is attainable and to not see the joy sitting in front of me. To be consumed by the want to easily feel joy than seeking the moments of joy.
“Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” -Romans 12:12
He doesn’t say be joyful once everything is perfect but be joyful in hope. In the anticipation and in full faith that His plan is at work, and while we navigate through the difficult pray. Pray to see the joy moments, to set your pace to His and be at peace that you may not see the whole picture but He does.
As my family navigates through this season of hard and feels all the emotions. I’m praying to see joy and remember that’s there’s more than enough for everyone on the playground.
“In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” -1 Peter 1:6-7 Jeri Purdy