Oh yes, tis’ the season for football and family and turkey. What a wonderful time of the year…one of my favorites. And you probably are expecting me to write about this wonderful time of giving thanks. Well, forget it!


Yes, I am very thankful for many things, but my rear view mirror in my car turned my attention elsewhere the other day. Backing out of my drive I happened to look to see if anyone or thing was behind me, being the good driver that I am. To my surprise there was no one behind me but something on me!

Yes, the dreaded turkey neck! I looked in amazement into the mirror. “That’s not me,” I thought. Am I that old? The response from somewhere in my head replied, “Oh yeah, you are!”

Young men, get ready. Soon your neck has the potential to look worse than a cheap collar on a dollar store undershirt. Wrinkled, bulky and old.

Oh, I will enjoy this year’s festivities, especially the turkey. But if anyone offers me the turkey neck, I might just throw it at them 

Seriously, embrace all that is good about the season. Giving thanks is a good thing. We are so blessed, to have a wonderful life!




So much has been written on Leadership. I am sure the topic has sold millions of dollars worth of books. I have done a little reading on the topic myself.

At the time of this writing I have 1,067 articles on Leadership filed on my computer. In fact, I have written a chapter on leadership in my first book, RELEASED. Having said all of that, I also understand I have so much more to learn.

As I approach another birthday, I can look back on a number of years of mistakes and teachable moments. As I think about the topic of leadership, I believe successful leadership can be summed up in one sentence:

Honoring God by leading others to the next level.

It is my belief that seeing Unlimited Potential in others and investing in them is leadership, rather than climbing the ladder of personal success.
How would you define successful leadership if you had to sum it up in one sentence?

By the way, there is a pretty good verse on Leadership in the bible:

3 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
Phil. 2:3-4


Motivational speakers get a pretty good pay check these days. People want to be convinced that they have what it takes to make it…whatever that means.

But today I want to discuss another side of motivation…why we do what we do.


It can be a tough question. Why do we work at the jobs we have? Why do we act the way we do? Why do we feel we are better than other? The list goes on.

At the beginning of my professional career I was a teacher and coach. I had a philosophy to determine and keep in perspective why I did what I did and it was pretty simple:

• Players are more important than programs
• Programs are more important than winning
• Winning is important

This philosophy of coaching helped me in decision making and evaluation

Later I was called to be a minister through UPI. After God and family, people were my focus. I had certain ways to approach studies, counseling, etc., but winning was not always something I could evaluate. The motivation for winning was obedience to the Word of God and the direction of the Holy Spirit.

Sometimes people I would meet would question my motivation. Some people are suspicious of people in ministry. Some wondered if I wanted to be their friend just so they would support UPI. Some were afraid I would pressure them to donate. (UPI has a long standing policy of no fundraising)

Too many want to measure what we do by quantity and quality. But it is also very important to continually ask why we do something. What is our motivation?
This week my challenge is to take some time to come up with a philosophy and motivation for what we do and why.
Hopefully our motivation as followers of Christ will be:

1 Cor.10:31 “ whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”



“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15 Such ‘wisdom’ does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. 17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. 18 Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.” James 3:13-18

The question this week is: What is our wisdom address? World or Jesus?


Some reading this blog might remember the song, WALK LIKE A MAN by the Four Seasons. Others of you have no idea of what I am talking about 
The hook line of the song was:

He said walk like a man
Talk like a man
Walk like a man my son
No woman’s worth
Crawling on the earth
So walk like a man my son


Then in 2011 Bruce Springsteen wrote a song of the same title. Here are a few of the lines from that song:

Well now the years have gone and I’ve grown
From that seed you’ve sown
But I didn’t think there’d be so many steps
I’d have to learn on my own
Well I was young and I didn’t know what to do
When I saw your best steps stolen away from you
Now I’ll do what I can
I’ll walk like a man
And I’ll keep on walkin’

Recently a number of songs have been written in the rap arena trying to understand what it means to walk like a man, but some of the lyrics may not appropriate for a blog like this. 
There are so many opinions, many objectifying women, on what it means to be a man.

To the men reading this blog and the women with husbands, who defines what manhood looks like? Too often we define manhood by a mixed medley of voices in the media and our personal lives. But how do you define manhood?

I really look forward to hearing your responses to this question!



UPI Truck
Several years ago UPI purchased a 2008 Ford F-150 truck for me to drive.

There were a couple reasons for the truck.
First was my size and the size of people I would potentially travel with in baseball. It was big enough to accommodate big and tall men!
Second was the price. Since my son in law was working for a Ford dealer at the time, we were able to purchase the truck for $24,500.

As many of you know, while returning from the World Series in St. Louis a couple of years ago, that truck was totaled when I was hit by a semi. I loved that ole truck. It was hard to say goodbye.

In the weeks that followed I waited for a settlement from the insurance company. I anticipated a low offer between $11,000 and $13,000. To my surprise they offered me $24,050! I was pleasantly shocked and took the offer! Realizing the resale value had remained high, I decided to look for another truck, a few years newer. Sure enough, God provided, thru a good friend, a 2011 F-150 for just over $25,000. I drive that truck today.

This is not an ad for Ford, although I love my F-150, but rather a time to reflect. What THINGS have we invested in that have remained valuable? So often we spend time and money on items that deteriorate or lose value. Reflect this week on where we are investing our time. What are the returns for now and what is the value for eternity.

Oh, by the way, I have an investment for you that is a sure winner:

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.” Matt. 6:19-20


You work hard, come home from a tough day at your job and find a wonderful dinner waiting for you. Or you decide to go out to a good restaurants and order one of your favorite meals. Food has a way of doing something for our disposition. Some days there is nothing like a good meal.


I have discovered that I can be a food snob at times. Once I have tasted something fine, there is the potential for me to be dissatisfied with anything less. The taste leaves me wanting more.
Sometimes we can forget where we came from. Some of you reading this blog may have come from affluence. But I would guess that the majority of us did not regularly dine at the Ritz! Some of us grew up on grilled cheese or peanut butter sandwiches. Sometimes for all three meals!

Most of us are better off today than when we were growing up.

Once we have tasted something good, it is often hard to return to what used to be normal. That may be good or bad. It is not good if we become discontent and feel we deserve to always have the best. We need to appreciate when we are able to experience the best but also be satisfied when we eat with the sparrows.
However, if we get a taste of the goodness of God and want more, that’s a good thing! May we never have enough!

Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him. PSALM 34:8