Retirement post

IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT TO MY FRIENDS. (At least important to Carin and myself)

O God, from my youth you have taught me, and I still proclaim your wondrous deeds. So even to old age and gray hairs, O God, do not forsake me, until I proclaim your might to another generation, your power to all those to come.
Psalms 71:17-18 ESV

This has been a prayer that has meant a lot to me. God has been so good in answering it in ways I never could have imagined. He has been so very gracious and kind to our family. Who would have thought that God would use a baseball and a game to be used as a tool of his work.

So let me update you on the latest gracious moment in our journey with Him.

Almost 2 months I had a sit-down discussion with Carin discussing with her our lives and the future. It was at that special meeting that I shared with her what I am about to share with you.

This past January 2018 I heard what I felt was the voice of the Holy Spirit. It was a soft, kind voice and my spirit understood it to be not my conscience. My first response was to battle with what the voice was saying and did nothing with his revelation to me until meeting with Carin in May. It was in the meeting mentioned above that I then shared with her what I sensed God was telling me.

After our luncheon I contacted Mickey and eventually shared with the UPI board and staff that I felt lead by the Holy Spirit to make a move. Based on those discussions, I am announcing to you, our faithful followers and supporters, that on Jan. 30, 2019 I will be retiring from UPI.

Please know that the board and staff have been more then kind and generous to our family. I care deeply for each of them and the ministry they bring to UPI. And please know we deeply believe in the leadership that Mickey Weston has brought the past few years!! UPI is in great hands!!

I have also enjoyed the last 2 years under Mickey’s leadership as executive director and taking on the title of President. The new title assignment me to represent the ministry in a way that allowed me the freedom to exercise my gifts both locally and abroad.

I will leave with some sadness. I believe in each of the UPI family and their calling. What a special group of men and woman God has assembled. The love and great friendships built over the past 38 years will hopefully continue. We sincerely care for one another and have great memories.

We will miss the meetings and personal times together. Those times where we would seek God’s direction for UPI together. The UPI board members have become close praying friends. The reason for my retiring is out of obedience and not displeasure of any kind.

So, what is next for Tom and Carin?

I do not believe the bible talks about retiring from ministry, We will continue to ask God to provide new assignments. For that part of this new faith journey I am excited.

I will remain on the UPI board and from that seat will have a great view of what God is going to do through UPI!! As founder I count this as a great blessing.

Thanks to each of you that have supported us in so many ways over the years. Hopefully Carin and I were good stewards of your kindness and the kingdom of God has been advanced in a way that honors HIM.

Again…thank you for your great partnership!

Please feel free to call or email me if you have any questions.

With some joy, a little fear and real excitement we walk into HIS future for us!

We serve a great and powerful God and it is so good to know that HE has our lives in his hands.

It’s Great to be alive because God is in control!

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Watch it!

James 3:6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell…

Have you ever said anything you regretted? During the day how much of your speech during the day is dedicated to praise and building up vs. negative thoughts and tearing down? Our society makes a habit of seeking out, exposing and trumpeting the negative. And we regurgitate it to our friends and on social media. Wouldn’t life be better if we built each other up? If we looked for the positive in everything how much better would the view be? And if we verbalized positive thoughts what a blessing to those around us! Speak positively and have a blessed week. Matt Kowalczyk

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Losing Heart….

Therefore, since through God’s mercy we have this ministry, we do not lose heart. 2 Corinthians 4:1

Paul recognizes the danger that the Corinthians will lose heart. Losing heart is quite a quaint expression. It means – to stop believing you can succeed and to become discouraged. The use of the word “heart” is a reminder of the ancient world concept of the heart not as a muscle which pumps blood but as the centre of one’s emotions, one’s whole being.

In verse 16 Paul repeats the warning “Therefore we do not lose heart”. What does the “therefore” mean? In the previous verse Paul wrote: “we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us with Jesus and present us with you to himself. All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God”. If the Corinthians are in danger of losing heart they are to remember what Jesus has done for them and what he is going to do for them.

Athletes can be prone to losing heart. I remember a young British athlete in Rio failing to progress from prelim to semi-final by the tiniest margin. Her comment after the race was “I ran tragically badly”. When I pointed out the tiny margin in fractions of a second between success and failure, she would have none of it. She had not only run badly but tragically badly.

When we understand the big picture and what Jesus has done for us and will do for us, it should stop us from losing heart. How do we apply this to our sport? I like what the Irish Rugby captain used to say: “It is very important who is going to win and of little importance who has won”. I think he was saying go into the competition and give it 100% but when it is over, move on. Stuart Weir

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How to earn respect!

By Tony Dungy
During my first season with the Bucs, things started to turn around for us, and we entered the 1997 season with high hopes. In the opening game, at a critical moment when we were trying to protect a slim lead, Hardy Nickerson, our defensive captain and a team leader, received an unsportsmanlike-conduct penalty for getting into an altercation with a 49ers player after the play had ended. I was livid. We spent a lot of time trying to help our young players understand that they couldn’t get foolish penalties and expect to win big games, so I brought Hardy to the sidelines and asked him what happened.
“He disrespected me,” Hardy said. I was dumbfounded. I asked him if he knew that we were in the process of building a team based on poise, character, and accountability to each other. As a team captain who had been with a winning organization, Hardy more than anybody knew what I meant as I reminded him of that. I asked him if he was willing to sacrifice the team—and our goal was winning—simply because his individual honor had been challenged or an unwritten code had been broken. I loaded the question to make sure that he got my point and to give him a chance to get back on board—quickly—so we could get him back out there. Instead, his answer shocked me.
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“That’s all fine until someone disrespects me.” That was a defining moment for both of us, I believe. Hardy and I met later that week, and he came to appreciate where I was coming from when I explained that his attitude wouldn’t work for a member of our team. As for me, it was one of my first glimpses into this psyche of respect and disrespect. If Hardy Nickerson, one of our most experienced and veteran player—a bright, thoughtful graduate of UC-Berkely—thought this way, it was probably far more entrenched in the rest of our young men than I had realized.
Respect is not a right.
A lot of people seem to believe that respect is a right, something they are entitled to upon birth. Instead, we need to recognize that respect is something you earn because of your character. I think, also, that we tend to confuse respect with fear. “I will make him respect me,” I hear guys say all the time.
Are you respecting the right things?
My power, my position, my stuff, my bling—these are the sources from which too many guys think respect comes. I’m concerned that when we do show respect, we’re not even respecting the things that we really should. A generation or two ago, we respected honesty, being a good provider for your family, being involved in civic organizations and church, or being a good worker in any honest occupation. In my family, we also respected men for simply being good uncles. All of my uncles were interested in and supportive of all of us kids.
Treating others with respect.
When Art Rooney Sr. was alive, he lived on the north side of Pittsburgh. As the owner of the Steelers, he would walk to the stadium every day, and people always looked out for him and his house, even as the neighborhood got rougher and many others moved out. Mr. Rooney never moved but continued to treat everyone the way he always had. Mr. Rooney knew everyone in our organization, from stars like Terry Bradshaw to the bottom-of-the-roster guys like me. He knew the secretaries and the cleaning staff by name, and he made it clear that they were all important to the success of the team.
Similarly, the people of Pittsburgh knew that he cared about them and their well-being and that the Steelers were a community trust, cared for by the Rooneys. What he demonstrated day after day at the office, in his neighborhood, and the larger community of Pittsburgh was an authentic and sincere respect for all those whom his life touched and who touched his life.
Earning respect.
One year, the sanitation workers in Pittsburgh went on strike. As I recall, trash was piling up everywhere around the city except in front of Mr. Rooney’s home. As it turns out, some of the workers were picking up his trash on their own. They didn’t have to do it. They just wanted to pick up the trash for a man who had always demonstrated a caring interest in them and so many others. A man who had shown them respect.
True respect starts with the way you treat others, and it is earned over a lifetime of acting with kindness, honor, and dignity.
by Tony Dungy

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Proverbs 19:20 (ESV)
Listen to advice and accept instruction,
that you may gain wisdom in the future.

I have always loved this and other verses like it. Wise counsel has been so critical in my life.

My good friend and co- author Jerry Price and I both strongly suggest each person, especially when in a transition, gather a personal board of directors.

Godly men and woman that will help us navigate life.

A group that will meet monthly for 2 or 3 months and speak life and truth into our lives.

A group that will gladly meet to listen and care.

We are made for community!