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Joy revisited

A few weeks ago I wrote about Joy vs Happiness. Let’s go deeper as a mom shares about life….

Remember when you were a kid and you never wanted to be left out? Isn’t it funny how the struggles of our childhood are easily found again as adults? The struggles don’t really disappear as adults, they just take on different forms.

As adults, these struggles take on more complex faces that mask themselves under the same basic principles. One that I struggle with is joy. The lack of joy or the ability to recognize it can be destructive and lead us to the never winning game of comparison.

Comparison is often deemed “the joy stealer.” Nothing robs true joy like focusing on the lies that the next thing, upgrade,
promotion, milestone, method, or whatever your comparison go to is will unlock joy. All comparison does is highlight the negative and place you in an unattainable pseudo-reality of existence rather than living.

Joy is ordinary. It’s easily found by those willing to see the value in the simple and consistent in life. It is not contingent upon the value others see in you but rather knowing yourself, seeing your own worth and deciding to find the joy in the tangible moments you’ve been given.

The struggle is real and one that can be easily overlooked in the false reality we put on display. It can be mistaken for the facade we create from the “everything is great smile” to the highlight reel that is social media. But, joy requires our authentic selves and truly engaging with those around us.

Think of a joy moment… Did it happen online? Did it happen while you were isolated? Likely the answer to these is no. Joy is in the middle of the mess of real life with real people. As hard as we try to manufacture those moments, we can’t because joy can’t be manipulated.

As I struggle through the comparison, the why is this my journey, why can’t it just be easy, it’s easy to think of joy as finite. To think that this is needed before joy is attainable and to not see the joy sitting in front of me. To be consumed by the want to easily feel joy than seeking the moments of joy.

“Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” -Romans 12:12

He doesn’t say be joyful once everything is perfect but be joyful in hope. In the anticipation and in full faith that His plan is at work, and while we navigate through the difficult pray. Pray to see the joy moments, to set your pace to His and be at peace that you may not see the whole picture but He does.

As my family navigates through this season of hard and feels all the emotions. I’m praying to see joy and remember that’s there’s more than enough for everyone on the playground.

“In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” -1 Peter 1:6-7 Jeri Purdy

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Success Wooden style

In his book Wooden, with Steve Jamison, Coach summed success

up this way:

So often we fail to acknowledge what we have because we’re so concerned about what we want. We fail to give real thanks for the many blessings for which we did nothing: our life itself, the flowers, the trees, our family and friends.

In his book with Jay Carty, Coach Wooden’s Pyramid of Success, Coach put the idea of blessings in perspective:
I can recount so many blessings in my life and I am thankful for them, but blessings don’t constitute success. If none of the good things had ever occurred, I would not be any less successful. The real determining factor is this: Did I make the effort to do my best? That is the only criteria, and I am the only one who knows (well, me and God). Am I a success? I have peace of mind.

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“When at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” (Unknown)
We’ve heard this saying all of our lives. I would say, “When at first you don’t succeed, ask God to direct your path. He may have a better plan for you!”

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight”
(Proverbs 3:5-6)

Keith Madison

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You know me!

You know me Psalm 139:1

It is one of the most mind-boggling thoughts that God is the creator and sustainer of everything and that he knows us personally. That thought amazes the Psalmist. Most religions of the world grasp the greatness of God but have no concept of having a relationship with God. As Christians we can put the two together.

The Psalmist uses several examples to make his point. Verses 2-4 are all statements about how God relates to him.

2 You know when I sit and when I rise;’ you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue you, LORD, know it completely.

The Psalmist – in a world where gods were territorial – is excited that no matter where he goes, God is there. He is also encouraged that the great creator knows him personally. He acknowledges that God will guide him and that God knows his heart and knows “my anxious thoughts”.

Isn’t that an amazing encouragement that as we approach competition concerned that we can do out best, that we will not let our coach/family/team mates down, that the niggle we are carrying will be manageable, that we will have the courage to commit to the game plan. Remember that God is with you and knows what you are thinking.

And when it is all over, with the Psalmist you can have the assurance that God will “lead you in the way everlasting. Stuart Weir


Finishing the race.

I consider my life worth nothing to me; my only aim is to finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me – the task of testifying to the good news of God’s grace. Acts 20:24

This verse stood out for me partly because of the reference to a race! I watch a lot of races so the image works well for me. It goes without saying that you cannot win unless you finish. In the race walk in the GB trials this year, a girl was in second place for most of the race but was then DQed almost at the end. All her excellent work came to nothing as she did not finish the race.

Sometimes in a distance race someone tries to break the field with a fast lap – great if it works but if you use up too much energy and cannot finish well, then it was a wasted effort.

In his recent book, Manchester United legend, Roy Keane, tells how he worked with a sports psychologist to reduce the number of red cards he was receiving. He describes how the psychologist said that his first aim each week should be to remain on the field for 90 minutes.

I love the story of the Kenyan pace maker in a Diamond League race a few years ago who did not drop out but kept on running to the finish and won the race!

Several places Paul speaks and writes about finishing well. It is always sad when Christians lose their faith and fall away or even get distracted from the main thing.

Paul is clear that he will finish his race which is “the task of testifying to the good news of God’s grace”. You are probably not a great preacher evangelist like Paul, but you too have a part to play in testifying to the good news of God’s grace as you interact with friends, colleagues and opponents. Stuart Wier

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Letter from a dying man

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This week I want to share with you a portion of our first book in our trilogy series. Follow the story in all 3 of our books available on amazon as well as at




You know I am not much at talking and not very good at writing. But the last few months have had me doing an evaluation of my life. I have come to realize that I had not taken the time to teach you how to grow up. The truth is, I just did not feel I had what it took.

I think I may have taught you how to work hard, and the importance of providing for your family. I have watched from a distance as you have gone to the mill day after day. I can only imagine how tough it was for you to get hurt and now have to stay home.

I thought I would write out what I have been thinking and what I should have told you early on, hoping you will pass some of this on to Joey.

1. Always accept responsibility for what you do. No lies or complaining. Get and take what you deserve.
2. You cannot control most of life, as hard as you will want to. If you try too hard it will make you an angry man… like I was for most of my life. Roll with the punches. You only have one life.
3. Care about others, especially your wife and family. I was too worried about money and what others thought. I drank too much and took my anger out on your mother. Although it has been tough for us Chadwick’s to be kind to one another, be especially kind to your family. Care about them more than yourself.
4. Appreciate the small things in life. Don’t always look for the spectacular. See the good in all events.
5. Money is needed, but not more important than people.
6. Always treat woman with respect and care.
7. Every day of life is a gift no matter how bad it sucks.
8. Try to find someone older than you to let you know what is down the path of aging. I failed you in this area and I ask your forgiveness.
9. There is something to religion. I met a guy, Ted Barrett, who would live it and tell me about God. I should have investigated it more deeply. I was too proud to do so.
10. Show how proud you are of your family. I never told you this, but I was proud to be your dad and do love you. I am so sorry I never said that to you. That’s the old Chadwick pride showing up again. Wait, no—that is my pride showing up again.

Love you,

A few things to consider!

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End of Construction.

People who have a lot of money and no time we call “rich.” People who have time but no money we call “poor.” Yet the most precious gifts—love, friendship, time with loved ones— grow only in the sweet soil of unproductive time.

The world might call quiet moments of presence with God and others unproductive time. I am learning that there is no more productive way we can spend our time. Everything that truly matters springs from that presence-enriched soil. My heavenly Father is always present. I just need to show up for Him. That is the essence of spiritual growth for me.

Just showing up in humility every day, seeking His presence.

I will stumble in this journey to be present. I probably will need a refresher course often. But I am confident beyond confident of one truth that Paul wrote to the church at Philippi, which is true for you and me today:

I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns. (Philippians 1:6)

I am waking up slowly in this life. But one day, fairly soon, I will wake up glorified. I believe the epitaph written on Ruth Graham’s tombstone will also describe my journey:

“End of construction—
thank you for your patience.” by Dave Burchett