Shepherd Coach: Tom Roy… Unlocking the Destiny of You and Your Players https://www.amazon.com/dp/1729574181/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_i_W6syFbER0V2QK
Tom Roys Flock: Lead your tribe. Feed your team. Protect your people. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089M61PDJ/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_i_q5syFbERKX2P7
So long 2018 …
In a year when the voices of woman have been heard loud and clear, one may ask if we need men. Here are a few thoughts as we close out the year by Roger Lipe, chaplain for Illinois State university athletes…
· Men are needed by their friends.
o When they need someone to trust.
o When they need someone to encourage them.
o When they need someone to believe in.
o Men are needed by their friends.
· Men are needed by their parents.
o For their lives to have a legacy.
o For security.
o For a sense of family pride. “That’s my son.”
o Men are needed by their parents.
· Men are needed by the women in their lives – mothers, sisters, girlfriends, wives.
o For security.
o For provision.
o For comfort.
o For stability.
o For courage.
o For direction.
o For confidence.
o Men are needed by the women in their lives.
· Men are needed by their children.
o Your children need you. Hear these statistics:
§ 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.
§ 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes.
§ 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes.
§ 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.
o Men are needed by their children.
· Today, Men are needed by their teammates.
o To compete.
o To battle.
o To overcome.
I wish each of you a very Merry Christmas week.
There will be one last blog next week as I see what is next in my life. I will be retiring from UPI after 38 years and look forward to what God might have next for me.
Stay tuned…I just may show up again in blogsville 🙂
Thanks for YEARS of reading and feedback!!
9 relationship building tips:
“It’s all about building the relationships that create trust. It’s not rocket science but most managers don’t do it. They don’t take the time to do it.” (The Front-Line Leader, by Chris Van Gorder, CEO of Scripps Health.)
- Don’t act superior. Take care of the people who take care of others.
- Dress like a person. In general, wear what employees wear.
- Do their job. Once a month spend a day on the front-line.
- Answer every email from an employee.
- Go to the gemba (the real place). Van Gorder spends 20% of his time walking around.
- Have no secrets.
- Support employees every way you can.
- Swear off layoffs.
- Give clear responsibilities and let employees know they’re accountable.
Every day people just like us look for purpose and have a deep desire, perhaps even a craving, for truth. They want to find someone…follow someone who is truly righteous.
They won’t find it in their careers, their friends, in the White House or in the Supreme Court.
Those who hunger for purpose and truth and thirst for righteousness will only find it in Jesus Christ.
“Then Jesus declared, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.”
â€â€(John‬ â€6:35‬)
Keith Madison
This week I ask us all to ask ourselves this question…Are we life givers or life takers?
The challenge:
When you first meet someone ask them how they are doing.
Then ask them what is new in their lives.
Finally try to drop the word I from the conversation…make it a you or a we.
Of these 3 areas are foreign to you…you may just be a life taker!
Hayden Carlo, 25, was pulled over by Plano police because he had an expired registration. He said he told the police officer that he was struggling financially. He said he had to choose between updating his registration and feeding his kids.
Carlo recalled their conversation. He flatly said he doesn’t have an excuse for the expired registration except he can’t afford a new one.
“I don’t have the money,” he told the officer. “It was either feed my kids or get this registration done.”
The police officer then handed the driver a citation, but when Carlo unfolded the paper, he saw a crisp $100 bill.
He said he “broke down” in his car. “What else can you do?” he asked.
Grace is my most beloved word in the world. As I study Jesus’ life, the notion of grace keeps hitting me in the face. All his stories made the wrong person the hero: the prodigal son not the responsible older brother, Lazarus not the rich man, the Good Samaritan not the Jewish rabbi. And I began to see grace as one of the great, often untapped, powers of the universe that God has asked us to set loose.
The French philosopher Simone Weil wrote a book called Gravity and Grace which describes two different ways of approach. The world runs by rules like gravity. As Isaac Newton studied the universe, he came up with fixed rules like “Every action deserves an equal and opposite reaction.” Athletics runs that way, as does the economy and politics. Stop making your car or house payments, and the bank repossesses them. Bomb my country and we will bomb you back. Against that pattern comes a strikingly different pattern. From God we deserve anger and we get love; we deserve punishment and we get forgiveness.
Grace is unfair. We deserve God’s wrath and get God’s love, deserve punishment and get forgiveness. We don’t get what we deserve. Paul put it ironically, “The wages of sin is death, the gift of God is eternal life.” We work hard for wages, which vanish at death; we do nothing to deserve grace, and get life eternal. It’s unfair that a human rights abuser like Saul gets forgiven, or a murderer/adulterer like King David, or a thief hanging on a cross who has a conversion just before death. Yes, it’s unfair—gloriously unfair I would say. Coach Campman
Tom Roy 